Diary · Of · A · Nice · Guy

Well I am excited for this is my first entry. To begin I will tell you all a little bit about my life. I live in the city and I am currently in college. I am a striaght, single guy and currently 18 years old. I grew up watching the traditional love story, hoping that one day I would somehow manage to be in the same type of relationship. I am also not one to judge someone's sexual preference. I believe we are who we are and might as well get along. I am the kind of man who will offer there jacket if you are cold, open doors for a girl and let her enter first, will buy flowers for you, tell you how great you look, plan a romantic dinner for you (sometimes as even a suprise), and will also go well out of my way to make you feel special. I also do not believe money is a way to a girls heart.
Many times I hear the famos quote, "nice guys always finish last!" This might be true, but as a nice guy myself I choose to belive differently and I try to always think that there is a girl out there for me, but I just don't know who she is yet. I believe there is someone out there for everyone.
In life, I believe we have to go through many failed attempts to reach our goals. This also can be applied to relationships. I have tried many times to impress a girl that I like, or at least get her to notice me in some way. As much as I would like to say I have been very successful, the truth is that I have often failed.

"But why try if your just going to get shot down all the time?"

Well, this is how you find out if you are doing the right thing. As the nice guy, I am often asked about relationship advice for other people's relationships, kinda ironic seeing how often I fail at my own relationships, but as a nice guy I am pretty good at telling other guys what a nice girl really wants from a guy. Girls often put nice guys in the "good friend" catagory, meaning "this guy would do anything and everything to make me happy, but I am just not into him like that." Nice guys are often told from their female friends what they want in a relationship. If the desired guy does it, he gets all the attention. If the nice guy does it, he gets well... ignored. However, sometimes thing go in the complete opposite situation.
Sometimes us nice guys will do stuff for girls with no intention of getting attention but just to do something nice for someone. This can often go the wrong way. The girl begins to think you like them and then turns around and starts treating you like you are a creepy stalker or something. Girls, sometimes a guy can and will do something nice for you just for the hell of it. That doesn't mean that they like you like that. As a nice guy I do not look for girls that I want to have sex with. I want to look for a girl who makes me happy and I can trust, go to when I am in trouble, be myself around, and know that I don't need to try to be something other than what I already am with. I am not into "physical relationships." There needs to be a social side as well. I like to go out on dates, watch movies together, stuff like that. More relationships need that today. I am also not attracted to girls for their looks. I like a girl with personality, intelligence, and character. If you ever find someone who makes you feel special, do me a favor and tell them how much they mean to you. Show them how special they are. It is hard to find someone who will care about you so much. Always remember, relationships take team work, without it, all that will come is pain and sorrow.

-JJ